When my partner and I were doing counseling together with couples, Gay and Kathlyn Hendricks were our mentors. Their book, Conscious Loving, and a workshop we did with them made a lasting difference in our relationship and guided our work with couples.
Recently, Gay wrote a new book he calls Five Wishes. An article based on the book was published in New Connexion (Nov/Dec 2007). Gay tells a story about a life-changing conversation he had in his 30s that centered on one simple question. Here's a link to the article:
Five Wishes: A Gift That Changed My Life
I encourage you to read it. It may just be the gift that will change your life!